How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?
If you’re currently with someone and you feel that they may actually be “the one” you’re obviously already in love with them. Love is a wondrous thing – it can strike in an instant and it sometimes clouds our better judgment. During the early stages of a relationship, when you’re just getting to know someone the last thing you’re worried about is how compatible you two are. You believe, based on what your heart is telling you, that you two are meant to be so nothing could come in the way of that.
I once had a friend who got caught up in a fairytale romance. She met a fellow who she felt was her soul mate. They dated for over a year. He asked her father for her hand in marriage and they had a beautiful, large wedding with all the trimmings.
Within a few weeks she had moved out and was filing for divorce. The problem wasn’t that he was unfaithful or that he said something hurtful – he told her he didn’t want kids. Obviously she did. He wouldn’t budge on the issue and she wouldn’t budge, so the only thing to do was to divorce. Somehow the crucial subject of parenthood had never come up in their conversations! Sadly, it left her feeling very alone and confused and it took her years to get back into the dating arena.
Regardless of how well you think you know your partner – you’re not getting the whole picture unless you ask the right questions. Once you understand what those questions are – you’ll have absolutely no doubt whether the person you love is the person you were meant to be with.
Common Questions Couples Ask Each Other
We all have a standard list of questions we revert to when embark on a new relationship. These questions typically fall into the fall categories:
Questions about childhood. Most us of recognize that you can tell a lot about a person based on their childhood. When we’re youngsters we’re subjected to many things that help mold and shape us. Questions about siblings and your partner’s parental relationship can all be very telling.
Questions about faith. Depending on your own spiritual beliefs, the answers to these questions may either make or break the relationship. You do need to be wary of how soon you ask these questions after you start dating someone new. Many people shy away from revealing their religious beliefs until they feel really comfortable with someone.
Questions about children. This is a big one and if you already have children it can be a deal breaker depending on your new partner’s answers. Not everyone is open to the idea of becoming a parent and it’s important to learn if you and the person you’re involved with share the same view. You’ll want to learn this early in the relationship but remember that it can scare someone away if you’re asking about kids on the first or second date.
Questions about political views. Political views are a hot topic for many couples and depending on your stance, it may not be that big of a deal. Some people are strong willed and only want to be with someone who shares the same political affiliation as them. Get this out of the way early and see if it affects what you feel for one another or not.
Although these basic questions can give you a general idea about a prospective partner, they only scratch the surface. You need to learn the vital questions you have to ask someone to know if you’re truly compatible.
1000 Questions for Couples
Learn How Compatible You Really Are
If couples simply spent some time asking each other the questions that really matter, they’d greatly increase their chances of staying together.
The great thing about a “question book” is that it makes it easier to ask those difficult questions and encourages an environment to address them.
But is Michael Webb’s “1000 Questions For Couples” the right book for this?
In short, yes. Most question books ‘beat around the bush,’ never really providing the important questions, and others simply don’t have enough questions.
On the other hand, Michael has put together the most comprehensive collection of questions, covering every single topic you’d ever want to know about before tying the knot.
It includes tough subjects like money, children & child rearing, career, past and present relationships, religion, morals, convictions & beliefs, personality, and even sex.
But don’t get me wrong while there are many serious and tough topics to discuss, there are also many “lighter” yet just as important topics, including the car and driving, vacations, food and well being, pets, and your favorite things.
That’s one thing I really loved about this book. It covered every conceivable topic from the super serious to the light-hearted and fun, making it easy for couples to start with easy questions and build their way up to important ones.
In all, there’s nothing really negative I can say about this book. It delivers exactly what it says and covers every question you would ever want to ask your loved one.
I highly recommend this book for everyone. NOT just couples who are thinking of getting married but also couples who just want to feel closer together, or people dating, who just want more things to talk about.